“Why would you focus on the flaw in someone else’s life and yet fail to notice the glaring flaws of your own? How could you say to your friend, ‘Let me show you where you’re wrong,’ when you’re guilty of even more? You’re being hypercritical and a hypocrite! First acknowledge your own ‘blind spots’ and deal with them, and then you’ll be capable of dealing with the ‘blind spot’ of your friend” (Matt. 7:3-5, tPt).
Blind spots. We all have them. However, by their very nature, they are imperceptible. Therefore, we often forget that we do indeed have weaknesses we cannot see. How easy it is to see the blind spots of others! How glaringly obvious they seem to us, when our own are nearly undetectable!
I read a funny story that illustrates this principle in a delightful way. I know you’ll enjoy it too:
“One day a little girl was sitting and watching her mother do the dishes at the kitchen sink. She suddenly noticed that her mother had several strands of white hair sticking out in contrast upon her brunette head. She looked at her mother and inquisitively asked, ‘Mom, why are some of your hairs white?’
‘Well’, her mother replied, ‘every time that you do something wrong and make me cry or unhappy, one of my hairs turns white.’
The little girl thought about this revelation for a while and then said, ‘Momma, how come all of Grandma’s hairs are white?’”*
This lighthearted anecdote is a spoonful of sugar to help the medicine go down, so to speak. Daddy God wants us to remember, when others’ shortcomings seem obnoxiously noticeable, that He has pardoned us from hell itself. Before opening our mouths to correct those around us for their mistakes, let’s let Him do His work deep in our core.
Every day, He has growth steps for us to walk through. If we listen in, He will lovingly lead us through each one. Little by little, His radical transformation of our lives will cultivate in us genuine humility. This will create a legitimate place from which we will be able to help others with their own struggles. As we submit ourselves to His continual pruning and purifying, from a clean heart we will be able to gently assist those around us in their development.
Where to start? If you are having trouble identifying the areas in your life needing His intervention, here is a wonderful prayer to pray: “Who can discern their own errors? Forgive my hidden faults” (Ps. 19:12, NIV). And then you can add, “Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting” (Ps. 139:23-24, NIV).
Father, You are the One who makes the blind to see! Please show me my blind spots. Open my eyes to what I cannot perceive, and empower me to walk in Your paths of compassion and kindness!
*Worthy Brief – February 6, 2018, http://www.worthynetwork.com
Has Holy Spirit empowered you to grow in compassionate towards other people’s weaknesses and struggles? If so, do you have any insights to add on this subject, from your journey?